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Acknowledge good qualities.: What is more honorable than being an unsung hero? Acknowledging the good deeds and qualities in others.
Always give the benefit of the doubt: Have the courage not to presume the worst and you won't become a cynical old bastard. Instead, you will always keep your possibilities open.


ask how their day was: Any wo/man loves to be a part of your life. Asking them how their day was is a great way for the two of become closer.
Be more honest.: Our lives can be very complicated socially and professionally, not being truthful unnecessarily complicates it more and promotes unhappiness.
Be more of a gentleperson.: The dictates of proper social conduct are that we be courteous, gracious and honorable, including opening doors, pulling out chairs and walking on the traffic side of the sidewalk for others. This shows our respect and our disintersest in conflict.
BE nice all the time: you gotta be nice toi everone before you can even be considered nice
Be tactful yet firm in uncomfortable situations.: Be kind. But do not feel badly about protecting
yourself and the people you care about from dangerous situations
by asserting yourself, tactfully and firmly.
Don't kill people.: Don't kill people, you'll regret it later. Its bad for the soul, Karma and possibilities for future happiness.
Don't steal.: Stealing may be an expedient way to aquire wealth or an object of desire, but it all comes back in the end and it will be you who is stolen from.
Forgive instead of holding grudges.: When we hold grudges we store bitterness, anger and resentment, which produces unhappiness within. Forgiving those who cross us allows us to become more content and happy people.
Help others: Do what you can lend a helping hand to those in need.
Listen more intently when others speak.: Listening more intently to others allows them to more fully communicate, while you gain a better understanding of them and what they are saying.
One love: We all want the same thing...to love and be loved. So unite and always try to feel empathy for others.
Remember birthdays.: We all have them and when they pass unnoticed by others we may feel hurt. Remembering the birthdays of others is one way to show we care and that they are important to us.
Respect Those With Whom You Disagree: Everybody has a valid point of view. Respect those who disagree with you and try to understand their point of view.
Return phone and email messages.: It is frustrating to leave a message on an answering service or to email someone without them getting back to you. It is important to return contact as soon as is convinient, so a person knows that the message was received.
Send thank you cards.: Sending a thank you card is a small gesture that goes a long way. Expressing your thanks with a quick note will mean a lot to the person who did something nice for you.
Smile: Smiling makes you feel good, uses fewer muscles than frowning, and is sure to brighten someones day.
Treat all persons equally.: Unfair treatment on the basis of gender, race, age, religion etc. limits social, cultural and economic exchange, and is counterproductive in an open society and free-market.
Visit a far-flung friend.: It may be possible to keep a friend without it, but traveling to visit a friend in person gives life a sense of continuity.
When something isn't how you want it to be, be supportive.: Just remember, hurting someone's feelings is never a good thing! Be constructive when criticizing, and point out positive things before the negative, so the person doesn't feel like a complete failure!
Always look under public bathroom stalls before waiting in line.: Be courteous and give a quick look under the bathroom stall doors to make sure that all stalls are occupied before you create a line.
Be a friend.: Want a friend? Be a friend.
Be a giving lover.: Romantic and sexual relationships connect people in physical and emotional partnership, necessitating the giving and receiving of both parties. A good balance ferments trust and harmony, adding to the enjoyment, benefiting both individuals.
Be a mentor.: Mentorship is a legacy of giving, it enriches individuals and society. Education is incomplete without the guidance and wisdom of one who is accomplished and successful.
Be a tutor.: When someone is having difficulty learning something that we already know, offering to tutor them greatly increases their chances of success. It is a refresher and chances are that someone helped us learn a thing or two.
Be a whistle-blower.: Calling attention to unsafe, unscrupulous, illegal or unfair situations at work is a brave and good thing to do. The fear of losing your job is no reason to let flagrant misuse of power continue.
Be an online activist.: The computer can be a powerful tool for affecting change. As a grass-roots building resource one can contact politicians, citizens and voters in a way that was impossible a few short years ago.
Be an unsung hero.: Working honorably and without needing recognition, focusing on the deed, not the rewards, eliminates reward oriented and competitive motivations, lending a less anxious and more dignified quality to work and life.
Be friendly to strangers.: We are a society of strangers; they are us and we are them. Being friendly to all whom we encounter brings enjoyment and dignity to our lives and our community.
Be informed about environmental issues.: Staying informed about environmental issues helps one vote knowledgably and purchase wisely, affecting change.
Be less judgemental of others.: People come in all shapes, sizes and behaviors and none of us are perfect; we all have our disappointing moments. Accepting others for who they are allows us to feel more comfortable being who we are. Judge not lest ye be judged etc. etc.
Be less materialistic.: Being less materialistic brings added dimension to life. Looking beyond monetary value allows us to enjoy things for their usefulness. We can do with less stuff and put more of an emphasis on enjoying people, nature, and the world around us.
Be quiet in the library.
Breast feed your baby.: Your baby benefits when breast fed, mother's milk is much more nutritious than formula and the baby forms a closer bond with the mother when breast fed. The earth benefits because the formula comes in packaging which must be disposed of.
Call your mother.: Parents may desire more contact with their sons and daughters than the offspring themselves.
Don't pick fights.: People may upset us, but that is no reason to become physically confrontational. Resorting to violence doesn't solve problems, it exasorbates them.
Don't stalk people: when you are in a relationship with someone, do NOT overdo it. spend some time with them, but not too much. if you find that the person you "love" is the only person you ever want to be with, go get some friends, because they will probably tell you to ge
Don't swear in front of children.: Children need positive and optimistic environments, swearing infront of them serves to infect them with meanness, coloring their world with disharmony.
Donate your long hair for wigs for chemotherapy patients.: If you have long hair and plan on getting it cut, consider donating it to charity. There are organizations who will take your hair and creat realistic wigs for children and adults suffering through chemotherapy.

Encourage others to recycle.: Everyone has been educated in one way or another about the benefits of recycling, but many people still don't do it. It just might take a little bit of peer pressure from a friend to encourage them to think about sorting out their recyclables.
Enjoy sunrises and sunsets.: Watching the sun rise or set allows us to witness our spinning solar system in action. Taking time out to enjoy this beautiful display encourages us to appreciate the larger scale of life. It puts things in perspective.
Forgive people when they make mistakes.: Remember that we all make mistakes. If someone does something that causes problems for you, remember that they may not have done so out of spite.
Get AIDs tested.: Not everyone uses protection all of the time, and most likely you haven't either. There is a several year delay between the time one becomes infected and when it can be detected.
Give a manicure.: Giving a manicure is a nice thing to do on several levels. You are helping someone manage their problem nails and cuticles while you share a little face-to-face hand holding and communication. The manicure exchange is also very nice.
Give flowers to friends and loved ones.: Giving flowers is a very caring and loving gesture whether you purchase an expensive bouquet or pick them fresh from your yard or garden. A single flower is beautiful by itself or you can create a fragrant bouquet by arranging several of them artfully.
Give spare change to panhandlers.: Some are truely down on their luck or are having difficulty getting back on track, others are drunks, addicts or petty scam artists but no one should have to go hungry. Giving spare change can help them get food or whatever else they deem necessary.
Give what money you can to friends in need and do not request repayment.: Cheerfully present an amount of money you can and tell your friends you know they'd do the same for you if you needed some. This behavior will leave everyone comfortable about the help you provided.. charitalble and may help them to be housed and fed.
Guys, put the seat down.: It is common courtesy, good hygiene and one of our basic social mores, to exhibit proper toilet behavior. Lift the seat - keeping it as clean as possible - then flush, and drop the seat when finished.
Have Compassion for Criminals rejected: Criminals are human beings and are capable of change.
Have less than three biological children.: The world is overpopulated. We can reduce the population by having less children. If you only have 2 children, you are just 'replacing' yourselves.
Have plants and flowers in your home.: Plants and flowers brighten our environment, bringing life and beauty to any space. They require regular watering, ritually bringing us into their world and expanding ours.
Help others move.: Moving is a cathartic labor intensive process. Often, the aid of extra person-power and/or a larger vehicle is necessary.
Help out with your friends' children: It's hard to raise children in today's world. Your friends need all of the help they can get.
Help push a stalled car.: A person is having car trouble and is pushing their car to a safer area, or they need a "push-start", pull over and lend a hand.
Invite friends over.: When friends visit, we share our home and open our lives to them. Our hospitality is a treaty of friendship.
Keep toxins away from infants.: Your child is very curious and wants to get into things...everything. Storing harmful chemical cleaners and other toxins away from children may save their lives.
Keep your bedroom clean.: When our bedroom is clean and organized, we can effectively organize the rest of our life; our clothes are cleaner and less rinkled, we can find our car keys and friends want to visit and maybe even sleep over.
Learn to play an instrument.: There is little in terms of personal enrichment that is more enriching than gaining the ability to play music. It has been shown to improve memory capacity in children and it literaly brings music to our lives.
Listen to yourself!: If you find yourself trying to make a difficult decision, sit down, alone, and think. Listen to what your sould is trying to tell you and do it!
Love people: Showing sincere love makes everyone happy:-)
Maintain someone's home while they are away.: Leaving home for a number of days can necessitate help maintaining animals, plants, mail etc.; visiting the home of a traveling friend periodically, gives the appearance that someone is living there, thwarting would-be robbers.
Make art.: Whether you have specific skills or are artisticly inept, creating art is good for the soul. The mind awakens spiritual energy within and it comes out in the form of visual and tangible stuff that others can see. It is magic.
Make baked goods for others.: When baking for others, we focus our thoughts and energy on them and they are able to taste our affection.
Make gifts.: When we make holiday or birthday gifts in the kitchen, or create items from discarded materials, we save natural resources and reduce potential waste, while giving from the heart.
Massage others.: Our lives are stressful and the human body becomes fatigued, giving someone a massage is a generous and caring gift.
Meditate.: When we meditate, our mind and body are able to be quiet, contemplative or just completely blank. Insight often comes to those who seek it and inner peace ferments.
Open Relationships: We are all connected. Why do we supress are feelings with everyone but one person at a time? if we worried less and expressed love more all are pains would be healed. I'm talking about all relationships not just sexual. meaning from all levels of communic
Pay back personal loans.: People who lend us money are good people who should be valued highly, and above all, paid back. We can move forward with dignity allowing us to make closer, more authentic connections with people.
Plan your family well.: Putting some thought into various family options before one is forced to, serves us and future generations as well.
Preserve memories by taking photos/video of family and friends.: As we grow up and older, memories begin to fade and people move away or lose touch. By taking photos or video, we can keep these memories and preserve moments that may become lost forever.

Put friends up for the night.: Sometimes friends need a place to stay. Allowing them to stay at your home is very kind and enables one to spend more time with them.
Read to children.: Reading to children on a regular basis gives them a love of books and stories, it develops their hearing comprehension and their imagination and helps make them more intelligent people.
Refill the ice-cube tray.: It is frustrating to go the freezer needing ice, only to find that the ice-cube tray has been emptied and not refilled. Refilling the tray is an investment in the future coldness of soft drinks, coctails and water for you and others.
Rent or borrow things you don't use often.: Renting or borrowing things that you don't have a regular need for saves money, storage space, and keeps the world less cluttered with unnecessary items. It is best if we can share the use of these items so we don't have to build and trash as many.
Return things you find.: We all lose things from time to time, such as wallets, purses and keys, and we can empathize with others when it occurs to them. Often a lost item is invaluable to us, but worthless to others. A goodhuman seeks to return lost items.
Say "hello" to your neighbors.: When you see your neighbor our in the yard give a little wave, smile, and say "hello".
Share your newspaper with others.: Newspapers are disposable items that have a usable life of one day. Almost everybody is interested in one section or another so spread the news and share your paper. No need in buying 5 copies when 1 will do.
Sing or whistle out loud.: Singing and whistling lightens the spirits and spreads one's infectious joy. When one makes a "joyful noise", one creates positivity and optimism.
Sing your child lullabies.
smile at a stranger: smiling at someone you don't know yet spreads goooood vibes and smiles are contagious!!
Speak up to litterbugs.: Don't let the people around you carelessly throw garbage on the ground without saying something to them about it. It just may take a little public humiliation for them not to do it the next time. Litterbugs need to hear from you that LITTERING IS RUBBISH!
Stop fights between others.: Being a peace-maker, by stopping a violent struggle or encouraging resolution to an arguement between friends, may possibly be intrusive and even dangerous, but it positively affects social change immediately and it is very heroic.
Tailgate less in traffic.: Tailgating may be an attempt to send a message to another driver to move over or speed up, but it endangers others and is a sign of impatience.
Take collections for friends in need.: From time to time one friend or another may become broke. Taking a collection - among friends - of food and/or small amounts of cash can really help a friend in need and it isn't too taxing on any one person.
Telecommute.: Working from home saves fuel, reduces pollution and traffic as well as being easier on you and your family.
Tell jokes.: Telling jokes gives a burst of fun and laughter to social settings of any size. Humor takes the pain of life away, making it brighter and more enjoyable.
Think good thoughts: By thinking good thoughts we promote positive energy within ourselves and toward the outside world.
Tip service workers 20% or more.: Service workers work tirelessly to please us, tipping well acknowledges this and benefits real people, not some faceless corporation.
Tip street performers.: Street performers of any type, talented or not, enrich our culture and should be rewarded for their gift to us.
Try not to SPAM search engines, web sites or individuals.: SPAM is electronic junk mail or any unsolicited and irrelevant email communication. This creates an unbelievable amount of unnecessary web traffic that slows real communication and wastes our time as we must continually work to rid ourselves of it.
Use cloth diapers.: They say that 1% of all American landfill space is occupied by disposable diapers which take up to 500 years to decompose. Cotton can be reused 100 times and decomposes in 1-6 months. Reduce landfill glut and save natural resources, use cloth diapers.
Use email to communicate with people instead of paper.: Letters and notes on paper typically require the cutting down of trees and they produce trash. Using email allows others to read your message when they have time and it doesn't tax the environment.
Use protection.: Sex is fun, but it can also be reproductive and dangerous. Using "protection" puts the fun back in sex.
Visit friends in jail.: People in jail are in mean and unfriendly environments which may affect them adversely, a friend who visits can make a world of difference in terms of keeping them in touch with their lives out side and helps keep them grounded.
Volunteer: You can volunteer your time to pick up trash on the highways or in a park, write letters to congressmen, or teach children about nature. Explore all the ways to get involved, and pick something that excites you.
Work to maintain long-term friendships.: Distance and time can seperate old friends. Making contact once in a while keeps the friendship alive, rather than losing a friend forever because of neglect.
Write: Write everyday to let your feelings out and to have a better understanding of yourself, situations and relationships. write for fun and creativity. write stories and poetry. share your writing with others.
Write a GoodHumans guideline of your own.: Writing a guideline adds to the community opinion of what a goodhuman is. It takes a brief amount of time but it shows that one cares about goodness enough to contribute to the collective thought.

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