Well "Friend" I must start by saying that your comment barely deserves a reply. It makes me sad to know that their are people who still think the way you do, with such a focus on detached parenting. Your true colors are beaming and they aren't pretty. I won't get into a debate with you about child raising, but I never use a pacifier, and I would NEVER let my child cry it out. Additionally, I doubt I, or any educated and loving mother, would need child raising advice from you. You may consider changing your user name. I could never call you friend. Please try to educate yourself on the values of Attachment Parenting for the sake of any children who should cross paths with you in life.