Friend, maybe you have missed the point here.
Isn't this goodhuman behavior?
This guideline is not about the poor prideless sap who is the
recipient of the contributor's goodwill. It rewards the
contributors and acknowledges the initiator of the group
contribution.
Sure there is the potential to insult a person when offering
charity, but if a person needs help...

Let say that a co-worker doesn't have enough money to visit a mother who is in the hospital 2000 miles away and her co-workers
take a collection to get her a ticket. Isn't that goodhuman
stuff?